Be A Friend to Yourself!

A new day, another opportunity! Welcome back to the Happy Gains blog with me, Kenya! I’m hoping you are all having a fantastic day. Now it’s time for some more encouragement to keep you focus and motivated to become the best version of yourself. So, grab something to drink and lets start the conversation.

Occasionally I like to listen to varies podcast during my morning walks because I find them to be very encouraging. One day as I was listening to one, I heard something that I never really gave thought to but I felt that it had some great weight to it. The woman was talking about self discipline and said self discipline is a form of respecting yourself. She then expounds upon that sentence by saying that “Just as you would show up for someone else, also keep your commitments to yourself”.

Many times we say yes to everyone else but when it comes to our own selves, we procrastinate and allow our own commitments to fall by the waist side. We must become a friend to ourselves and treat our own time and goals with the same respect as we would for someone else’s. Many times we would commit to someones request, only to resent our decision of saying yes to it. This may look just like “people pleasing” because we are afraid to say no. In order to become better at having self discipline, you have to be committed to protecting your schedule. I have so many examples in my life of setting my own commitments to the side in order to meet someone else’s needs. When I look back, I see that those persons really wasn’t considering my time and that I had already something planned. After overriding what I really wanted to do, I would feel unhappy with them and myself. Most of the time they just expected me to drop everything and come to their aid. Now I’m at a place that I am learning the need to stay in my own lane and show others how I feel about my time. It’s our job to make sure people understand that you are not always available. I know sometimes we don’t want to seem like we are disappointing our family and friends but I really think they will not die if we say NO 🤣!

You have to fight for yourself because very rarely will you find someone who really sees your obligations as important. Yes they inquire a couple of times but they also have their own lives. They have their own goals and they are more likely to make their own agendas first propriety. There is nothing wrong with that. So when looking out for self when needed is okay as well.

Like I mention in my earlier blog the selfish season, it is really needed in order to go through the process that you want go through so you can see your goals achieved in your life. People may think you are being selfish but all you’re doing is creating the necessary boundaries so you can get focused and stay focused on accomplishing your goals. I remember having friends that made sure that I was aware of their boundaries. At first I did not like them but now I understand that those boundaries were there to help them to stay focus and not allow someone to disrespect what was important to them. I believe a lot successful people understand the importance of being a friend to themselves. They have their day scheduled to keep their commitments and they are not budging. So, today it’s time to make sure that you are being there for yourself, so be a friend to yourself.

So until next time, have a wonderful week!

-Kenya