Hi everyone, I now its been a while since I last posted anything. Honestly I haven’t felt motivated to post anything for a while. But today I feel motivated so I thought to share. But first, I hope everyone is doing great. I am doing great as well. Still learning alot at my job. Also at the end of June this year, it will make a whole year at this job and they also gave me a permanent position which came with a raise. Praise God! So now that we got that lovely intro out the way, its time to grab your yummy drink and lets jump into the conversation.
So recently this weekend I heard some bad news and then I started having all these thoughts. The main thoughts were about forgiveness and being mindful of what we say. I have been learning that we are all connected and I have been asking the Lord to help me really love people better. Of course, getting upset is normal when someone provokes you but we should not stay in that place of being upset with them. For one thing it is really going to take a toll on us. Those feelings are really low energy feelings and they can eventually make your health suffer.
Its like God create in this realm a built auto correction system. Basically whatever you put out there whether it is good or bad you will experience the fruit of it. I remember when I was in boot camp and there was a young woman who was not going to be able complete the final training with us which was based on a lot of running and plus all the things we had learned while in boot camp. Then after this training we would graduate and go to our duty station. Well I went up to the young lady and told her “thats why you are no going to be able to run with us”( I know, that was terrible). Of course that hurt her feeling but guess what, that night during the run, I failed and I had to go back to the barracks and at that moment I remember what I said to the woman. That my friend, was me eating the fruit of my lips or you can say it this way, I was eating my own words. That was over 20 years ago and I never forgot that. Of course I had other times where I was corrected with the same method of eating my own words.
The other thing I was thinking is forgiveness. If someone hurts you, for instance if your parents were not perfect (now we know that no parent is perfect), and you decide to not forgive them its like setting yourself up to see if you can be a better job than them. Ive have notice that people will be mad at there parents only to make the same or decisions in there personal lives . It makes me think, is this how generational curses come about. Its like given satan more permission to exploit more areas in your life.
So Im sharing this blog today to remind us that we are all connected and we all have issues. The best thing you can do for yourself is to love people and don’t hold grudges. Its okay to get upset but don’t stay upset because your only hurting yourself. Have you every notice when you are mad, it does not feel good. Once agin thats the auto correction working. There are so many studies that show that holding on to past hurts can really harm you.
Here are some things that I practice in order stay forgiving and mindful of my words:
- Sit in quiet and meditate (drink) on the Lord, this will get you out your mind and at the same time the Lord is refreshing you and healing you
- Understand that I don’t have to say something or have an opinion. This helps you to pay attention to what you are saying.
- Enjoy the present moment which helps you not to dwell on past hurts
- If necessary let the person who hurt you know, this may help clear up any misunderstanding- only if necessary though
- Consider if what made you upset, is it really that deep and maybe you are making it bigger than what it is
- Considering your mental, emotional, and physical being helps because mentally rehearsing a bad interaction with someone keeps you living in the past which will only bring negative affects to your wellbeing
I hope this was helpful. So until next time have a blessed, beautiful day.
-Kenya
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